Prepare to be fertilized!
The best thing my mom ever did for me when I was an adult and moved out was to not sympathize for too long. I HATED hated hated it when my Mom would say life is hard. I was all about looking for the easy way.
I hated the stupid stuff I had to go through but that is life — going through . It’s what makes us grow and become – how we handle the crap that is tossed at us. Slipping on ice and hurting our backs. breathing in water. job limitations and regulations.
It’s shit! But flowers need shit to grow. So do we!
Don’t wait till you’re my age to figure that out. Learn to grow through the shit. Even welcome it. Ah, here comes another chance to grow!!
Honey, I love you so so much. But I won’t take away your opportunity to grow and I can’t linger long at wallowing with you. I’ll figuratively hold your hand, send you hugs, and let you complain – for a little while.
But then I’ll offer suggestions. I’ll even get kinda philosophical…
Find a saying that pushes you through. I have always used the Serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can change, the courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.
A few other suggestions:
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Even flowers need shit to grow up beautiful.
Find something you can put up and remember.
Now, I am embracing hard. Bring it!!!
I promise you, the moment you realize and embrace that shit is just part of life, you will feel so free.
Never forget that I love you. NEVER.